As A Girl.

As a girl, we are expected to stand up for our rights as well as for others. We are expected to play the role of a son and a daughter at the same time. Have a soft heart all the time and to never flip if anything goes wrong. To stay ‘calm’ and to keep people around us ‘calm’.

As a girl, we are expected to happily entertain what may come our way. To ‘understand’ every situation. To give up and to calmly or never react to people saying whatever they wish to about us. To let time decide what is good for us and do what is best for others.

As a girl, when our parents are trying to mend us to be the stronger one than the other kind, when they are trying to mend us to not only be polite but keep our values up high, the society decides to speak for us.

As a girl, being judged and being criticized is just a block on our way to be successful. Talk about not being a housewife anymore asking your husband to adjust a little, perhaps a part of crime. Maybe not for the husbands, but for the society which decides to speak for us.

Suddenly when we try to speak up for our kind, for the women out there and everyone supporting us, you tell us we are asking for a little too much? Well in that case, please tell me when was the last time you heard that families decided to abort a child because he was a son?

And god forbid if we try do something a little different from that, we are tagged as selfish. But where were you when we are trying to be completely selfless?

Every time one of us decides to walk or even crawl an inch above from where we are, we are pulled down with more than just taunts and stares. However, blessed are those souls who refuse to let these things affect them.

But, this is not what disgusts me. What really disgusts me the most is when one of our kind decides to call us names. When a woman calls another couple of woman, and let me quote, ‘they’ve always been a trouble’. They want to rant about how terrible the society is to us by being a part of them.

Already taught to be cautious of the whole world, sadly my mother never asked me to be cautious of the kind who was running along with me as well as trying to pull me down. My father forgot to tell me that his kind is not the only barrier to stop me. My sister decided to let me know in the most indirect ways. My boyfriend decided to hang on strong while I fought this. My named and unnamed families decided to be our strong backbone. And all my girlfriends and I were hand in hand facing it and let it just bounce right back to the bitches and we kept on doing what we had to.

Sometimes I miss the fur of love we had when we were young. Just like the cord from our mother's womb is cut off when we are born; you are pushed out in the real world, our abilities to move forward were cut off too. Not physically, but mentally. They threw stones at us, stones which never hurt us physically. But mentally decided to destroy us and remind us at every turning point of our life that whenever you are in doubt, we are there to pull you down even further.

This post is not to defend the women from all around the world, in reality it is to let you know that you should think twice before even respecting someone who does not let someone else grow. Are you trusting someone who is rational enough? Or are you fooling yourself by trusting someone who is ready to pull others down, and blame shit on others when they are not ready to take the responsibility?

And I end this post by quoting Meryl Streep, ‘The great gift of human beings is that we have the power of empathy’.

And also, a quote from an unknown source, ‘I’d rather be a rebel than a slave.’

-BrunetteBunGirl

-21st March'16